An arranged marriage is marrying someone who one does not get to court with and find out more about. It is almost like marrying an acquaintance. The decision to marry is usually done by the couple’s parents. In the past, they look at how reputable the family is and at their wealth. Nowadays, most people do not practice arranged marriage anymore as the importance of individual rights increase. I too disagree with an arranged marriage. However, there are some countries where people actually agree with arranged marriage!
There are some advantages to an arranged marriage. It gives youths more time to enjoy their time being youths, without having to worry about a relationship and the responsibility which comes along with it. Arranged marriages also allow people who are physically handicapped or socially inept to get married. This is an advantageous situation for them. According to a website, I read that Indians, who practice arranged marriage, base their relationship on commitment and not on feelings. “An Indian woman described it as "Here, we get married without having feelings for the person. We base our marriage on commitment, not on feelings. As our marriage progresses, the feelings develop. In America, you base your decision to marry on feelings, but what happens when the feelings wane? You have nothing left to keep the marriage together if you get married according to feelings and then the feelings go away."” This woman has a point. There is a chance that their feelings wane. If the couple base their marriage on feelings, there is a chance that this may result in a divorce, as there are no feelings for each other anymore.
Most Westerners cannot fathom the idea of marrying someone they do not love. Instead, they believe that a marriage should be based on feelings. They believe that marrying without having feelings for each other would not bring happiness. Having the chance to court one’s girlfriend or boyfriend gives him or her chance to better understand the other party’s likes and dislikes, his interests and what he hates. From there, one can decide if the other is a suitable mate.
I feel that it is very important to have understanding in marriage. With understanding, you would be able to know what the other party likes and dislikes and from there deduce if he or she is a suitable pair. With this understanding, the couple would be able to communicate better and minimize the chances of quarrels and misunderstanding. The second most important thing in a marriage would be commitment. If the other party is not committed and decides to part halfway, it would bring one lots of sorrow. Thus, commitment is the next thing I would look out for in a relationship. Finally, I would look for virtues. This would be the final thing I would look for in another person before marriage.
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